Category Archives: Writing

Top 11 Posts of 2011

Well, we’re almost to 2012 and recently I posted my top 11 photos of ’11, so I thought I would dig around in my stats and share with you the items that a plurality of you decided to visit over the year. They’re ranked by number of views.

11: (Dis)Engaging Google+ – I’ve written that I’m not a fan of Google+. Based on my experiences, my opinion hasn’t changed from August 11, 2011.

10: 10 Things (About me) – Interesting, this post, written around my birthday in 2010 garnered enough views this year to make my list. I find it funny that it’s number 10. :)

9: Oh, to be Popular. #199 – My 199th blog post here. A photo essay of my top Flickr photos. Be sure to check out #1 if you haven’t already.

8: Crossroads. Help Me, Pathfinder! – A great post about my future education and where I want to go from here. I say it was a great post because it offered me some good conversations with people about the state of education, what I should focus on as I continue forward and helped me figure out where I truly am in my head.

7: Good Customer Service: America’s Tire – I’m thrilled that a “Good Customer Service” story made the list. The adage goes, a happy customer will tell no one, while an unhappy customer will tell everyone. That’s not true in my case, I try to give equal time to good and bad customer service.

6: O.H. in the E.R. – On of my funnier (and sad) posts about an ill-fated trip to the ER last August. My pain is your joy. The things you hear in an ER waiting room are rather funny. If you take the time to listen.

Steps
(Photo Credit: Sea Turtle on Flickr)

5: Following the Pack (or not) – A post from last February where I offer my commentary on a “gorilla marketing tactic” on Twitter that was horribly spammy. I found it interesting that my desire to speak up was met with extreme hostility and mob mentality, which border-lined on bullying. I still stand by my opinions and observations. Sometimes you have to go out on a limb. Be bold.

4: The Lone Zebra, an Educational Opportunity – Written regarding a kerfuffle in the Real Estate Community about copyright and trade dress infringement. This gave me an opportunity to put into real life practice some things I had been learning in my Business Law class. It was a great case study.

3: Guest Post: Judgment Between The Lines – I’m so thrilled you liked, or viewed, this post. It was an important post. A guest post by my close friend Sarah Salter, she writes about something I think we all struggle with: Judgement and its many forms. An extremely timely, timeless and poignant post, worthy of read, whether it’s your first time or tenth.

2: Missing The Mark: Sears – Christmas Customer Service – Wow. This post, written just six days ago, outlined some poor customer service I received from a National big box store. Outlining the systemic issues from corporate culture, to employee detachment (An employee adds his comments to the post) it has become one of my most popular Customer Service Commentary posts.

Singapore Fireworks Celebrations '08 - Korean Fantasia 3
(Photo Credit: Synchroni on Flickr)

1: You’re Welcome?!? - A post from this summer, I volunteered at a women only half marathon this year, I was struck and moved that almost every single runner, no matter how fatigued or festive, took a moment to thank the volunteers, when all I really was doing was standing in the middle of the road. I’m very thankful and grateful that this is my number one viewed post. It makes me believe that you all enjoy a little bit of gratitude in our world and maybe we/I need to be sharing a little more of it.

I’m extremely proud of these posts and some of them I think are close to “my best.” I hope that this streak continues in 2012!

On A Wing

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I’m not a confident flyer.*

I hold my breath as if it is going to help. I know the logic behind it, more likely to … car wreck etc… But, I can’t help it. There is something about flying that defies all logic. That the science of aerodynamics defies the laws of gravity. There are many things I think of to help me through.

I try to enjoy the beauty of that moment when we mortals leave the ground, to experience that momentary life from our Earthbound duties.

I enjoy the scenery when we punch through the clouds. When we shed the burden of the dark grey skies and reach for the sun.

I take solace in knowing that at this moment, i am ok. I am leaving fear behind. I may be holding my breath and closing my eyes, but my heart is still beating and I am going places.

Sometimes you have to swallow your fear, hold your breath, close your eyes, listen to your heart and leap forward into the clouds.

* This post written mid-flight from Portland to Santa Rosa, California

Crossroads. Help Me, Pathfinder!

I’m at a crossroad with my education. I am getting close to graduating with my Associates of Business Administration degree. (YAY!) However, I am also looking at what the future holds for me.

crossroads at night
(Used via Creative Commons, thank you dsmoljanovic!)

I am a storyteller, not as in, “the fish was this big” stories, but more so, “this is why you want to partner with us” stories. I also believe in great customer service; sales helps the bottom line grow but customer service is the key to retaining those customers. As I look at my career and what the future holds for me, I have come to the realization that I need to be working towards something greater when dealing with my education.

As you may have read in previous posts, I find it very sad that experience is not enough in this world, and that very few things that I have learned in the community college environment have been new applications to me in business. I’m certain there are things I will learn in the future that will help me in my career, but I’m having a hard time finding new things to learn, when I’ve been working for more than a decade.

3/52 Un trabajo duro / A hard work
(Used under creative commons, thank you bibigeek!)

Now that I’ve rambled on a bit, this is where I have to ask you, dear readers, for some help. As I near the end of my Associates program, I have to decide to go down one of three pathways:

1: Be done with education; take my Associates degree and run.
2: Spend more time in Community College and seek another specialized Associates Degree.
3: Pursue a Bachelors degree.

The first option is simple. Pack up my knapsack and run.

The second option is a little more difficult. I would have to do some serious soul searching to decide which program I would want to complete.
The Urn Burns (All Souls Procession)
Used under creative commons, thank you cobalt123!)

The third option is much like the second option, although I have narrowed it down to four disciplines: Communications, Public Relations, Marketing, or Journalism.
Storytelling at West Lothian libraries
(Used under creative commons, thank you Scottish Libraries!)

The reasons for one of the above four degrees are simple:

I want to tell your story.

I want to communicate with your consumers.

I want to make the consumer experience better.

Looking forward into my crystal ball, I note that I have to have a degree or pedigree, to do so. So what direction do I take?

My grandmother has always told me, “when in doubt, punt,” so I am. Any advice/observations you may have would be greatly appreciated.

Feelin’ Fine…

Sometimes this is just how you feel.

There’s a Simpsons Episode for every moment. Please enjoy.

Repudiate or Reputation?

Reputation is based solely on public perception. You can say how awesome you are, how smart you are, how fabulous you are or how magnificent you are, but if you are perceived as anything less; it’s all smoke and mirrors.

I was privy to a discussion online recently where a person decided to rant about another individual’s use of Social Media. Now first and foremost, I’ve built a reputation where I tend to debate a side of an argument whether I agree with it or not. It’s just who I am. I like to argue any side as it forces me to see things from a different light. In this instance, I just felt that the passive-aggressive nature of the comments were uncalled for and I happened to personally like the target of this berating.

lightining
(Used under creative commons, an amazing photo thanks to Half-Blood Prince!)

So, doing what any good person should do? I said it was uncalled for and I stood up for my friend. I wasn’t arguing the merits of the disagreement, but the method of attack.

The nature of the “attack” was passive aggressive, yet pointed in its nature. I disagree with this method, and I set out to say so. This person was someone I admittedly didn’t know very well to begin with, but based on my interaction, is/was someone I don’t necessarily care to interact with in the future. And it was all done in Public.

And that’s all it takes:

Shattered Dreams
(Used under creative commons, and amazing photo thanks to Hollud!)

One interaction.
One Tweet.
One Status Update.

And everything you’ve spent so much time building online, gone, or at the very least, damaged.

While I have received an apology privately from this individual, I chose not to respond. I said my peace, publicly and privately when it happened. And I really didn’t care to have interaction beyond that. Social Media means that I’m certain we’ll end up in the same circles in the future, and I’ll remain cordial, but it’s not interaction that I will seek out.

I also find it pretty telling about a person who will call out someone in a passive aggressive manner, under that much ruckus, and doesn’t have the respect/decency/kahunas to say they may of acted foolishly in public, they only do it in private. I’m not sure what that really says about a person, but when it comes to perception, I get to have my own.

That’s just how the little bird squawks. :-)

Why Do We Care?

I was talking with a friend recently and the conversation turned to their feelings about how they were going to be viewed by another group. My instant reaction: “Eff them.” If they’re too busy spending time judging you for your opinions to actually enjoy you as a friend, why would you give them the time of day?

This got me to thinking… Why do we give so much power to those who we want to consider friends? I mean, we can be considerate, that’s a given… But why do we constantly worry about how we’ll be viewed? Is that the driving force in our existence? I’ll admit, I probably worry too little about how the general world perceives me and far too much about how I want to project my “image.” Very often, I get into a mood, like today, where I would like nothing more than to live in a remote cabin, in the middle of nowhere, no internet connection, no television, just some good books and a notebook. I know it would drive me crazy, because I’m a people person by nature, but I would really love the disconnection, for a while.

I think.

Back to the aforementioned topic… Why do we care so much about how we are perceived by others? Why don’t we feel secure enough in our opinions to give them, regardless of “how we look?”

Just a thought.

Still, one of my favorite sayings, ever: “Fuck them if they can’t take a joke.” (Even if it’s not a joke. Sometimes you just have to make your feelings known, say or write what you’re thinking, from the heart or from the head, and those who agree or disagree will come and go as they please. Seeking approval will sometimes just drive you mad.

If Everyone Else Is Doing It…

My mother has always used the line on me: “If everyone else jumps off a bridge, would you?”

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In many industries, your competitors set the tone, right? No, you should set the tone, your customers should set the tone, you should do what works for your business, not what you’re being told to do.

I was at an industry conference where almost every presenter told the audience that they: Must have an iPhone, iPad and must be doing video, or they’re going to be left behind by their competition. Now, I’ve been vocal about my displeasure of the sense of inferiority that iPhone users level at other phone users. “If you don’t have an iPhone, then you don’t have an iPhone,” the commercial states. Well, you’re right, I don’t have an iPhone, I made an informed decision when I purchased my smart phone.

I looked at the iPhone and I didn’t want it. Pure and simple. That’s my personal experience.

In the real estate industry I spend a great deal of time talking about smart phones, tablets and other “latest, greatest” devices that each agent “must have.” In this day and age, agents should have: A computer, a phone and a lockbox key. I’ve seen agents who are successful, who do not own a car.

All the rest is just additional toys. More things to charge at night. More things to fuss over, taking you away from your core business. I’ve written many times on here about doing things well, not because they make you cool.

This goes for blogging, video or technology. Sure, some of your competition is doing it, right now less than 1% of agents are using video. Will it set you apart, sure, is it immediately necessary? No.
Blogging is something that you should enjoy doing, it’s a commitment if your doing it for business. You have to set a publishing schedule, constantly create new and fresh content, otherwise, you’ll end up looking stale and people will stop looking.
As for technology, ask yourself this one question, “What problem are you trying to solve?” If you don’t have a problem, other than someone is telling you to jump, then you don’t need a solution. Sure, technology is fun, but having something in your hand is not going to immediately put something in your wallet.

Soap Bubbles
(Used under creative commons, thank you dmelchordiaz!)

Do the basics well, Do what you love, and the rest will fit naturally.

Small Things

“Don’t sweat the small stuff,” they say. Show me a person who doesn’t notice the small things and I’ll show you a person who notices nothing.

In my life, in the last twelve months, I’ve had some major events, most of which I’m able to deal with without issue. It’s the little things that impact me the most. It’s easy to say the little things aren’t important, they should run off your back. I disagree, the little things are the ones you deal with from day to day, moment to moment, instant to instant. Those are the things you reflect on when you take a moment to breathe.

In the last couple of days, I have been hypersensitive to the little things. Not making them bigger, mind you, just more aware of how the little things affect me. When things I have asked for, haven’t been done. How things I’m told cause me to react. I guess you could say that I’m more reflective on my setting, my surroundings and more aware of my state of mind.

Shostakovich and Stalin
(Used under creative commons, thank you Mait Jüriado!

I’m not sure why these changes are happening at this precise moment or, why I felt inspired to write about them to you. But I thought I would tell you that I’m watching the little things, because the really do matter.

Some people do all the right things, even the small stuff. Some people miss the mark because they can only see the big picture.

At least they do, to me.

If personality is an unbroken series of successful gestures, then there was something gorgeous about him, some heightened sensitivity to the promises of life. – F. Scott Fitzgerald

Why I hate video.

I’ve been thinking – I have been to many workshops, blogging seminars and various other places regarding “Web 2.0…..” First, is there such a thing as Web 2.0? When did we have web 1.0? Web .01? It seems to me, many are just struggling to define something so they can say they’re proficient in it. How about saying, “Internets, I have it?” Sorry, that must be too complicated.

Which brings me to my previous point, sorry for the sudden left turn…. Videos on your blog, Videos in your email, Videos are the next great thing? I wholeheartedly disagree. Here’s why:

I have a short attention span.
When I am at my computer, I’m usually doing four or five different things at once. When I click on your webpage, I can read it at my own pace, in my own time. If it’s just a video, you’re asking me to stop when I’m doing and focus all my attention on you. It better be worth it.

Uh. Um. Oh. Ah. Uh. Oh. Um.
I catch every vocal pause in your sentences… And I judge you for it. If you’re not confident in what you’re saying, how do you expect me to be comfortable with you as an expert?

Stop looking at me
If I’m watching you, watching me, watching you, I’m watching where your eyes are going, if they’re staring into the camera, I’m a little unnerved. If you’re looking off screen, I want to know what you’re looking at. I’m curious. What ARE you looking at?

awkward statue
(Used under creative commons, thank you SoStark!!)

Take a breath once in a while
I can tell when you’re trying to say everything all at once. Take a breath every once in a while. The video is already awkward, so a pause every now and then would not be uncharacteristic.

Hey! I like your: Office, Den, Living room, Car, Boat, Evil lair
As mentioned above, I’m creeped out by looking at you, looking at me, so I’m looking everywhere, but you. I’m looking at the pictures around you, the papers on your desk, the traffic driving by – Is it raining? – the open door – Did someone just walk by? – Oh, and when I’m doing that, I’m not listening to your message. I’m distracted and paying attention elsewhere.

Messy desks
(Used under creative commons, thank you JonRB)

Oh man, another video
Learning from the history of AOL member pages, Angelfire, or Geocites, if there is anything that is on autoplay on your site, including video, I’m clicking the red X as soon as I can find it. I’m usually listening to something in my own world when I’m at my computer: news, music, my mother on the phone, and I don’t need to hear your voice/music trying to compete.

For all the above reasons. Please stop forcing me to see your video, cause I’m already not watching. Put the effort into something I will pay attention to. Video is not the answer to all of the web’s problems.

Take a picture, I’ll look at it and it’ll last longer….

School Work Response

I’ve written about being in school many times on here. Some of the work is really frustrating. In one of my classes, a required Microsoft Publisher class, we were required to create a newsletter about our family or home life. I was in a really bad mood when I wrote it. The teacher’s response? “I don’t know whether to laugh or cry at your newsletter.” That’s comedic genius!

Here’s what I wrote:
Nick Newsletter