This really doesn’t have much of an answer, but I really need to find a place to just ramble on with my thoughts. This may or may not make a whole lot of sense – I apologize in advance.

What do you do with disappointment. When someone has really let you down. When you really cherish someone and you hold them in high regard but they do, what they have to, what they need to, what just happens at the moment and you’re opinion of them, while not shattered, is tarnished? You may still think the world of them, but you just know that you’re mind is stuck on something. Where ever it is?

What do you do with your own disappointment? When you know your not holding up your end of the bargain? Whether it’s to yourself or you’re not holding up to something you’ve set out to do? How to find that it’s ok in the moment? How do you move past?

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Is it ok to be disappointed in yourself and those you care about? How is it possible to learn from that disappointment in a constructive way. When you know that communicating your disappointment will do no good at this time; when you don’t know how to vocalize your disappointment; when you’re not sure what you’re really disappointed in?

Disappointment is one of my least favorite emotions. It’s the least defined and the least productive, yet the most prevalent.

9 Comments Add yours

  1. Nancy P says:

    Hugs Nick. I hope you find some peace in whatever this situation is.

    1. Schnik says:

      I’m working through it. Thanks for your kind words.

  2. Nick – I have been trying to write the same post without success – I love you and thank you for putting my thoughts into words –

    1. Schnik says:

      Sometimes I have a way with words and a knack for letting my thoughts ramble.

  3. Nick says:

    Wow, can I relate this entire past year. My coping has come from something a friend shared:

    God (feel free to replace with whatever you believe), grant me the serenity
    To accept the things I cannot change;
    Courage to change the things I can;
    And wisdom to know the difference.

    It sounds super cheesy and it’s tough to follow all the time, but it has really helped me through one of the hardest years of my life.

    It’s an AA prayer actually, I haven’t needed to use it for addiction, but it has worked well with the disappointments – both in myself and others – a great deal.

    1. Schnik says:

      I’m familiar with this. Sometimes, I replace the “know the difference” with the “ability to hide all the bodies.” probably not the most productive thing, but it gets me though, sometimes. 🙂

  4. Sarah Salter says:

    I’m very familiar with disappointment. When you love and respect people, it’s incredibly hard to watch them make decisions that you believe will hurt them or be counterproductive for them. So, in a way, disappointment is a good emotion. It’s an indicator that you’re still emotionally plugged in to the people around you. But it sure doesn’t feel good. The only thing you can really do is forgive and move on. This is easier said than done…. It just requires time and willingness.

    As for disappointment with yourself, just remember that you’re often way harder on yourself than you should be. Forgive yourself, learn from your mistakes, and become a better person because of it.

  5. markbrian says:

    Maybe we can try to not focus on a negative emotion such as disappointment or let it change the way we look at things. We can throw away today regretting yesterday or worrying about tomorrow. We can decide to be happy, sad, angry or disappointed. It is hard to do but sometimes you must force or trick yourself into being happy.

    The trying times filled with negative emotions or feelings can wear you down if you let them. Try to always find the silver lining in every gray cloud. Stop and smell the roses. Enjoy the moments of happiness there are in life and cherish them.

    All easier said than done, especially for a pessimist like myself.

    1. Schnik says:

      Isn’t that the truth. It is hard to sort some of the pieces out and look at things objectively. When multiple things pile up at the same time, I think we end up losing sight of the good parts of what we’re doing…

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