Friendships and Endurance

I’ve had a lot of time to think recently. A lot of time to myself. Some of that time has been incredibly therapeutic but sometimes all of that noise and all of the voices of doubt creep in on all the joy in the world.

One of my favorite all time movie quotes comes from Too Wong Foo, Thanks for everything, Julie Newmar: “no one is so rich as to throw away a friend.”

2018 will forever be remembered as a year of change and transition in my life. Not that it’s a bad thing — Change is Good. Change is necessary. — some of the things I never expected this year was the change in my friendships. I pride myself in enduring friendships, long term, special, and strong friendships. However, not all friendships are built to endure, are they?


Those who are special in our life do not always remain so, we grow, we evolve, we not only change who we are, we become who we’re supposed to be. Sometimes, that means, the ties that once bound us together are severed. And I guess that’s how life is sometimes and at some point in time I’ll be ok with that, too. 

That’s not to say that I’ve lost a whole lot of friends in all my recent changes, there have been plenty of old friendships that had been diminished in recent years that have grown stronger this year. I guess it’s all about balance. I think the reason this whole cyclical endeavor has had such a great impact on me as of late is that relationships and friendships never seem to turnout how you’ve planned. Some friendships are just destined to fade into the darkness, they’re part of how we grow as humans, how we evolve in our path, and it’s what we learn from those friendships, from those people, how we endure and grow stronger.

Another of my favorite quotes from the aforementioned movie? “Let good thoughts be your sword and shield.” It has served me well over the years, and definitely served me well recently.


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