For those of you who know me, I never (rarely) make New Year’s Resolutions. They’re too easy to break, they’re too easy to become discouraged by, and they generally fill you with hope only until you break it (usually by accident) and that only starts your year with broken promises or dreams.
Instead, I usually choose a word, something that I can continually practice, grow from, and endeavor throughout the whole year. The word is rarely forced and truth be told, usually comes to me in my deepest moments of silence or solace. Little do I usually know, upon reflection, they usually come true in some fashion. For 2018, my chosen word was growth. Boy howdy, did that one come true.
For 2019, the word is Authenticity.
But what does it mean to live authentically? To be authentic? And how do you know if you are?
not false or copied; genuine; real
having an origin supported by unquestionable evidence; authenticated;
representing one’s true nature or beliefs; true to oneself or to the person identified
For me, to be authentic, or to live with authenticity, is to let go of some of the “shoulds” in my life, the things I have to do or (feel that I have to do) but all the while, keeping up the appearance of that weight of doing something because I, or others, have an expectation that I will do it. I am going to really work to strive to do things that I feel I want to do, because they’re meaningful to me, because I find or seek value in them.
For some, this might strike a tone of selfishness. In fact, I believe it to be the most selfless act I could perform all year. No one wants to be trapped in the cage of shoulds, woulds, musts, and have tos, We all want to be free to chart our course, to devise our master plans, or just to stay home snuggled up in a blanket with your favorite cup, pup, friend, or fantasy. This year, I strive to be me, and while I cast off those anchors in my life, I have a plan to set my sails and go forth and conquer.
What about you?